I discovered he’d been masturbating to common friends of ours on Facebook for eleven months. First I was heartbroken, then I tried to help him with his “issues” but it all ended in me being pushed down a driveway.

— Catarina

Aftermath: I must admit I still thought I could forgive him when I was in the ER. But after the indifference he’s shown me ever since, I told our friends that he has issues and got over him.

Before it even started. We were on our first date and he would not shut up about how he has done the internet dating thing for the past 12 years and how he conned his last girlfriend into having sex with him because he was a virgin. He also offered to get me another drink, which I though was nice, but then he says to the bartender, “Put it on her tab.”

— Anon (Woman)

Aftermath: He texted me to say he had a nice time and hopes we can go out again soon. I am hoping he gets the picture by my ignorning him.

My boyfriend and I had been together for about three years with the last year being really rocky. One night I woke up to find him laying on top of me. In his sleep, he had rolled over onto my side of the bed and was smothering me. I realized that was just another symptom of how selfish and oblivious he was to my needs.

— Saquah

Aftermath: I continued to try to make things work for another couple of months. I finally made a clean break when he told me he was sleeping with someone else but that we could continue to sleep together as long as I didn’t confuse it with us being in a relationship. I changed my locks, sold his clothes and left the state for a week. We never spoke again.

First date went well, went home, started talking to him on AIM. He then wanted to know if he could make me believe in witchcraft. I said I was comfy with my own beliefs so no thanks. He dumped me for not believing in his guardian spirits and spells, and then spent the night threatening to kill himself.

— catiedid

Aftermath: stayed friends

It was either receiving £40 worth of computer game vouchers (when I don’t own any consoles) for my 18th birthday or when I realized I hated his sense of humor. Nearly three years I wasted on him.

— Shorsha

Aftermath: We broke up. I moved away to university and met funnier and nicer people.