I knew it was over when he was verbally abusing me after we had left church (for the umteenth time) and he told me that “I didn’t know how to walk with God.” And he was a minister!

—Marcie

Aftermath: We were only married for 3 months and it lasted for one more week and I snuck out while he was at work and left the state.

We were on vacation on 9/11. We turned on the TV after a friend told us to, right before the second tower fell. I started crying. He turned to me and asked, “What are you crying for? You don’t know any of those people.”

—Anonymous

Aftermath: Insensitive much? Stayed too long afterward. Ongoing therapy. You know the story.

Shortly before our wedding, I was worriedly waiting up for him—he had gone to pick up a friend from the airport and five hours later, he hadn’t even called. Around 2 a.m., I got a call from the police station. He’d been pulled over for speeding, the cops had searched the car and had found random pills on him. That, turns out, he’d stolen from my dad—whom the cops made him call to assure them the pills in question were, in fact, Viagra, and not something more nefarious.

—Helena

Aftermath: We wound up getting married. Extremely dumb move on my part. Now getting divorced, 4 years later.

On our second date, I showed up at the designated meeting spot at 7:45 p.m. Forty-five minutes later, he texted me to say he was leaving his apartment and he’d be there soonish, which would have made him 1.5 hours late for the date.

—Caramel Party

Aftermath: When I told him not to come because I was canceling the date due to his extreme tardiness and disrespect, he says, “What am I supposed to do now?” Hm, Perhaps learn how to not be a douche bag?

He used the 10th anniversary of his mother’s death to break up with me, claiming that “everything he loved got taken away or died” and he was so fearful of this happening that he couldn’t fully love me. I was devastated until I learned from a mutual friend that he used the break up and anniversary to get back with his ex-girlfriend. He tearfully told his ex-girlfriend that I broke up with him because I couldn’t bear to console him through the anniversary.

—KJW

Aftermath: It took a really long time, but we’re friends now.