I said we needed to spend at least one evening a week and one afternoon or evening a weekend together if he wanted this marriage to work. He said I was “unreasonsble” — and went out yet again with his drinking buddies.

— AMD

Aftermath: I’m way less lonely now that I’m alone.

I knew it was over when he showed up at a dinner party I was invited to WITHOUT me and got so drunk that my friends called me to complain. 2 months later, I came back to school from a bad weekend home, and he dumped me after 5 minutes. His friends (who helped hook us up) talked him into it (while drinking), saying we were “too serious”. They were all engaged to be married

—Cyryn

Aftermath: Some months later, I was leaving the dorm to go out (dressed just a shade punk), and ended up holding the door open for a couple in Armani suits. His parents asked who I was. He claimed to not know.

She started coming to my band’s gigs. She was 7 years older than me. We went to a movie… once! Suddenly I started getting cards in the mail with hand-written messages like, “I think I’m in love!” After ONE MOVIE. I, as gently as possible, broke up with her. Her girlfriend was there and angrily kicked me out.

—mel

Aftermath: Six months later, she came to a gig with her NEW HUSBAND, whom she’d met 4 months earlier. Definitely dodged a bullet.

I knew it was over when, after a month, we were on our way to watch a meteor shower, and she hid from her ex-bf’s friend because she didn’t want him to see us together.

—Jae

Aftermath: I knew at that moment that I was a secret indulgence since we usually went out to places where she wouldn’t run into other people. It wasn’t surprising when the next day I got an email from her saying she didn’t want to be together.

My husband at the time said, “I can’t do this anymore.” We got into a fight about having a baby (I wanted to and he didn’t), and he cheated and got the girl pregnant right after.

—Heather

Aftermath: I have since remarried a wonderful man and just had a beautiful baby boy. But part of me wants to know what happened and why he hurt me like that.