On our one-month anniversary, he emailed me to cancel our dinner date because his friend was in the hospital. I found out later that this “friend” was his ex that he still wasn’t over, and the “hospital” was a mental institution. She had come to school after an all-night drug bender and started acting so crazy, they had to handcuff her to a desk. When he heard about what happened, he banged his head against the wall and made it look like an accident, so he could be sent home from school and then go see her.

—Lila

Aftermath: It was over the moment he confessed to me that during his visit, he supported her “both mentally and physically.”

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After journeying across country for a visit, he tried to go down on me and instead stuck his balls in my face. When I realized the musky smell was from lack of hygiene, I slept on the couch the rest of the visit.

—Taylor

Aftermath: When I got home, we exchanged a few texts but he got the hint with my lack of communication and disgust when he mentioned having sex with him again.

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Moved in with fiancé when I was 19. He started banging his head against the wall at night and having weird blubbering fits. Then he slit his throat in the bathroom. While in the psych ward (where I visited faithfully and allowed him to blame me for his crazy), he cheated on me and then wanted to date us both at the same time!

—Carol

Aftermath: I did go on a few dates with them—and then found my self-esteem. He is now heavily medicated and still single.

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We had been out on a few dates and I wanted him to meet my best friend and her boyfriend. We all decided to meet at a nice restaurant. Everything was going fine until he opened his phone and started showing my best friend all the porn he had downloaded.

—Jillian

Aftermath: It was over two weeks later.

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He partied a lot and I was getting out of a 5-year relationship, so I wasn’t looking for anything. We took a last-minute trip to Vegas for my birthday. On the 2nd day of our 6-day trip, he took me to the little white wedding chapel and actually asked me to marry him. Of course, he was crazed out on all sorts of pills and he fell over while proposing! I left him on the ground and told him it wasn’t going to work out.

—Paula

Aftermath: I had the best time in Vegas after leaving him. I got an upgraded room thanks to winnings. We sat on the plane together and he said I would have to take a taxi home because I had no friends. Of course, my ride showed up before his.

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