After dating for nine months, he randomly started ignoring me, and finally decided to make it official with a phone call — well, sort of. “You may have figured out I’m with your friend now…don’t throw darts at her picture.” No, I reserved all my darts for your picture, thanks.

—Laeci

Aftermath: A year later, we were friends again. The girl, on the other hand, tried to date all my boyfriends until she moved to a different state!

I woke up one morning with a text message in Spanish that I couldn’t read, so I took it to the cafe next to my apartment to have somebody translate for me. The message said, “Ricardo left and he’s never going to return.” Then I didn’t hear from him again…

—Jen

Aftermath: After a few weeks of emails from him telling me not to worry, that he would explain everything to me when he got back, I recieved a phone call from him telling me he had a girlfriend and he never wanted to talk to me again. I was devastated. He spent his last 5 pesos breaking up with me!

I found a picture of him on Facebook, blackout drunk, dancing with and kissing a slut at a concert. We were both devastated. He swore he didn’t know her and didn’t remember anything. He begged forgiveness, sent flowers, wrote poems, recorded a song, professed his love for the first time, and drew me Venn diagrams stating he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I took him back. Four months later he broke up with me, saying he couldn’t reciprocate the same depth of love I had for him. He had a new girlfriend about 2 months later.

—Katherine

Aftermath: He was guilty for about a month and kept trying to contact me ‘til I told him to leave me alone. Now he’s sleeping with his new pop-tart who lives 3 blocks away from me.

She told me she had herpes right before we were going to make love…..no STDs for me, thank you.

—Sean

Aftermath: She kicked my junk and left.

He was sober for a while when we had started dating. He also said that no relationship can survive an infidelity. After being with him for almost two years, he wanted me to move with him to another state for a job. He had started drinking again and ended up cheating on me after I had uprooted my life to be with him. He swears he loves me and only wants to be with me.

—Island Girl

Aftermath: I still love him but I’m extremely hurt and I’m not sure if I can recover from his infidelity. Only time can tell but my feelings are starting to wane so I guess it’s only a matter of time.