I was dating an older, successful military man who pursued me for a year before I relented. He had to travel often, and would fly me to see him. Then I got a phone call from his wife.

—Crystal

Aftermath: Turns out he had girlfriends all around the country who he fly to see him, but his wife doesn’t believe in divorce and they have two children together already. I sent him a final e-mail asking him how he’ll handle it when his daughter has men like him using her. He still pays for my cell phone, which is on his family plan!

After learning he had been cheating on me for several months, I confronted him and told him it was over. He responded that I was crazy and just making up excuses so that I could sleep around with other men.

—Stephany

Aftermath: We lasted about two weeks of him cheating after my confrontation. I hear he and the girl are getting married this spring.

After hanging out for a few weeks at his apartment on weeknights, I asked him to hang out in public on the weekend. He said yes, then never called. We got in a huge argument on text & he then called me another girl’s name. When called out, his response “My bad. Lol. Don’t be upset. An honest mistake.”

—Joy

Aftermath: He texted me another month later, asking if I was interested in hanging out again. Told him I wasn’t interested and reminded him who I was just in case he hadn’t updated his contacts yet. His response? “Whatever,” then not another word, ever.

It was over when she could no longer hide the growing fullness of her belly. I had had a vasectomy three years earlier.

–James

Aftermath: Her lies revealed and my suspicions confirmed, she moved in with her baby-daddy.

He pretended to own his condo to make it look like he did not rent. Of course I found out. But the real kicker was when he said that he was always taking his mother to the hospital to help her battle cancer. Also, not true.

—M

Aftermath: Married 6 months, divorced & when I called him on all of his BS, he tried to put it on me…OK!