“Hourglass”
I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a public event at an art gallery. We had been talking for a good half hour and really seemed to be hitting it off. Then, I commented that she had a “nice, full, hourglass figure.” I thought she would take it as a compliment, but instead she became deeply offended. She snapped, “Oh really…well, perhaps I should do some plus-size modeling!” I went into damage control mode and tried to clarify my comments but only exacerbated things when I used the term “healthy.”
—Kevin
Aftermath: With a look of complete disgust, she slapped my face and departed. I will never forget those agonizing seconds in the immediate aftermath, as I was standing there alone rubbing my cheek, drawing some judgmental stares from onlookers. Needless to say, it was not my proudest moment, LOL.
Why on earth would you comment on the body of a woman you just met? Her body is not an object of public discussion.
Yea, you’re a moron, sorry.
This is Kevin, the original poster. I truly meant it as a compliment but it was obviously a bad choice. To add insult to injury, I had to explain the red mark on my cheek to a female friend I met up with a little while later. I got a sharp, verbal reprimand from her as well. It was obviously not a day that I did well with the ladies 😉
i would love to hear your exact words, but you did nothing wrong with the compliment, you probably messed up somewhere else, not sounding sincere, or something. But i should take away your man card for going into damage control, stand up for what you say, never apologize for being a man.
p.s. women give horrible advice on relationships to men
I guess I can blame part of it on overactive male hormones coupled with having had a few glasses of wine. Hey, it‘s not every day you meet a really pretty Asian woman with all natural 34-DD‘s 😉 I was probably guilty of having wandering eyes. It didn’t help matters that she was wearing a form-fitting top. I do have her email address. Think I should send her an apology note and try for a coffee date.
WOW……thats all i can say and this is coming from someone who’s been know to run headlong into his own mouth….why not comment on her big feet or large ass?….i think the “full & healthy” part of your “compliment” is what did ya in…:)
Yeah, you should never use specifics when complimenting a girl, especially one you don’t know REALLY well. They tend to like/dislike random body parts for seemingly no reason. I once complimented a girlfriend of 2.5 years on how much I liked a certain part of her, and she got upset and told me that she was self-conscious about it. Point is, no matter how well-meaning it is, stick to words like gorgeous, beautiful, etc. Those can’t be taken in a negative way. Except, of course, by a crazy person.
Honestly, I don’t see how complimenting on how she looks is all that bad. I always thought that they wanted the hourglass shape..
The fact that you know that her 34DDs were all-natural means that your conversation got past the casual conversation phase. If she was comfortable enough with you to say that, then your comment was not out of line, given the permission she implicitly gave you.