I found a compare/contrast list comparing me to his ex-girlfriend and I objectively thought she was a better choice.

—M

Aftermath: We broke up, got back together. Went through counseling. Now we’re happily married with 2 kids.

I am 48 and was dating a 55-year-old guy. I knew it was over when he told me about an 19-year-old girl that had a crush on him. He referenced a conversation he had with his friend about what he would talk with her about after sex, and he said, “Tell her to go home.”

—Laurie

Aftermath: It made me sick to my stomach (my daughter is only 8 years from 19) and I realized then I was not his type…and didn’t want to be.

I’d wanted this guy BADLY, and I waited for a long time (we worked together and were both exiting relationships). It was torture, but the good kind. We finally had our chance to be together and he was packin’ heat, but not so great on the side-dishes. I still liked him. Then, he asked “Didja?” (Did I have an orgasm?) I said, “Well, not this time, but no complaints.” Then, this manly Army guy pouted for an hour, then yelled as he was walking to his truck at midnight, “SAY GOODBYE TO THE F***ING LOSER!”

—LP

Aftermath: I asked later if he was just joking. Did I misunderstand a humorous gesture? Nope. Pouty McB*tchyman = instantly over.

I knew it was over when she told me that she had just got out of rehab for crack and she was ashamed of all the things she had done to get crack.

—Dennis

Aftermath: I dropped .00 on the table and never looked back.

With me she was a quiet, innocent girl. At the club she was loud and crazy – 180 degrees from who I thought she was…

—J.

Aftermath: I should have ended it there, but she begged not to leave her. It went on for 2 more years. She’s been engaged and dumped twice since.